Learn to manifest your dreams
Whether you believe in the power of manifestations or not, isn't it worth a try? What do you have to loose? There are a few things that can happen when you tell the universe what it is you'd like to receive from it:
- nothing at all
- you'll realise that you already achieved so much
- you'll gain the focus you need to start making your dreams come true
- the universe might just give you a little hand-out and help you on your way
But can you tap dance too?
Matthew is the name of my therapist and business coach - but it's also the name I've given to my inner therapist.
Don't walk alone.
...we so often look over at someone else’s success and lament that it’s so easy for them, or they're doing so well and why aren’t we able to produce that level of work, speak with that much confidence, rake in that many clients. But are we taking into account where they are in their story? Do we know how many times just showing up and looking in the right direction was top of their priority list?
Driving Miss Crazy
It has been said that “we are all born with a desire to be great!” - in some field or another. Maybe it’s in business or learning, perhaps you are driven to be the greatest teacher, maybe it’s in health or fitness, or perhaps it’s in family life; be the greatest mum, dad, sister, friend.
But at most only 2-3% of us really achieve true greatness.
Don't be a barn owl!
It's no secret that I learned to drive late in life. In fact I learned to drive this year aged 34, a fact which I'm in part ashamed of and in part incredibly proud of.
But why did it take so long?
Let's be honest, so many things that we could have done, should have done and would have done come down to fear. I could give you a dozen "excuses" why I didn't do it but the truth is fear prevented me from doing it. And that fear only grew over time. And once I had children and knowing that I would be driving with them in the car made taking that leap even harder. If I'd learnt when I was 17 and had been driving myself confidently all these years, it might have given me a moment of additional reflection when I had kids but this way around and the challenge seemed insurmountable.
Discovering your WHY
Hear me out! You know by now I tend to mix metaphors and concoct my own smilies! - there is logic behind this one I promise!
Being a barn owl is what I call it when we focus our energy and emotions on looking around, over our shoulder and essentially 360° instead of keeping our eyes front and centre. I catch myself doing it often when I'm about to launch a new project or try something new. I swivel around and wonder what everyone else is thinking.
It's about Marmite
None of the great historical movements in the world began because somebody told somebody else a fact. Bullet points have never started a revolution.
So why would a list of my business attributes convince you to trust me?
Oh hello again Fear!
By it's very definition the exclusivity of an authentic following means that you will lose some "accidental" followers along the way. Those were the clients who were in it not for what you uniquely have to offer but rather for what you tempt them with, the manipulations rather than the inspirations.
Not enough to go around
"Probably, no one wants want I have to offer"
"I'm probably not good enough, I'll wait until I am"
"It will probably take up too much time/money/energy"
All valid points. But none of them are reasons why your not pursuing your dreams - they are excuses which defend the real problem - you're afraid! And probably you should be!
Authentic Newborn Photography
Some of the common laments that I hear often from fellow photographers are:
• "there aren't enough clients in my area for me"
• "studio xyz are charging so little that I have to reduce my prices too"
• "the market has been "spoilt" by hobby photographers and shoot & burners
• "people won't pay higher prices"
• "there's too much competition"
Over the years my style of photography has changed dramatically and it continues to change on a daily basis. When I started out I was obsessed with “nailing the pose”. I thought that newborn photography was about creating images from a checklist of authorised poses. That some guru photographers somewhere had dreamed every possible position and now my job was to recreate those positions as accurately as possible. These gurus held the power to say if I had failed it or nailed it. I remember a session with clients when I had a brain block whilst posing a baby and found myself turning to my assistant in dismay and asking her “was it right over left, or left over right”.